Personal & social development // Self-Awareness
Your Impact on Others
Reflect on how your behaviour lands on others — consider not just what you intended but what the actual impact was on the other person
Quick check
Can the learner think about how something they said or did might have felt to the other person — not just what they meant by it, but what the impact actually was?
Ask this to see whether the topic is secure.
Topic // Mastery
What mastery looks like
- Describe how something they said or did affected someone else — e.g. 'When I didn't include them, they looked upset'
- Predict what might happen before acting — e.g. 'If I take the last one without asking, they'll feel it's unfair'
- After a conflict, explain what they could have done differently and what effect that would have had
Topic // Map
Where this fits
- RequiredMust come first
- HelpfulHelps, but not essential
Before this
4 topics- Vocabulary: selfRequired
Self-Awareness // Ages 5 to 10
Reflecting on impact on others requires vocabulary of 'impact', 'perspective', and 'reflect'
- Patterns in Your Own ReactionsRequired
Self-Awareness // Ages 7 to 9
Reflecting on the impact of your behaviour on others requires first having noticed patterns in your own reactions — you need self-knowledge before you can examine your social footprint
- Feelings Versus ActionsHelpful
Self-Awareness // Ages 6 to 8
Reflecting on impact requires understanding that your actions were choices, not automatic responses to feelings — the feelings/actions distinction underpins social accountability
- Teaching It BackHelpful
Learning to Learn // Learning to Learn // Ages 7 to 8
Reflecting on how your behaviour landed on others requires being able to articulate your own thinking and intentions clearly — the self-explanation habit applied to social experience
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Your Impact on Others
Ages 8 to 9 // Thinking skill
Leads to
2 topics- Questioning First ImpressionsRequired
Self-Awareness // Ages 9 to 10
Questioning your assumptions about social situations requires first having practised the harder skill of seeing yourself from another person's perspective
Friendship & Cooperation // Ages 9 to 11
Reflecting on your role and behaviour in relationships builds on the foundational habit of considering the impact of your behaviour on others
Personal & social development // Self-Awareness
More in Self-Awareness
- Personal Growth Over TimeAges 10 to 11Thinking skillReflect on your own growth over time — the things that challenge you now are not fixed, and noticing how you have already changed builds genuine self-knowledge
- Naming Your FeelingsAges 5 to 6Thinking skillNotice what you are feeling and put a name to it — being able to label an emotion is the first step to understanding and managing it